Self-Confidence Is a Skill
Have you ever been in a place where you find yourself questioning your own authority or expertise? 
You have years of experience, and your gut is telling you that you’re right, but you always second guess yourself. It comes down to confidence, self-efficacy, and your belief in yourself. 
Self-confidence is a skill. And like all other skills, it can be taught, learned, and reinforced.

How? It’s all about the self-talk. 

Do you find that you often experience negative thoughts related to what you’re doing? Thoughts like: “Ugh, that was a stupid thing to say.” or “Now I know that they know I’m not as qualified as I make myself out to be”. These thoughts have real consequences on your behavior (and your confidence level). But, what if you turned that negative self-talk into positive self-talk? 

Positive self-talk is a scientific way of approaching positive thinking. Now, this doesn't mean approaching all situations with a blissful ignorance. Instead, positive self-talk can be understood by approaching the situation with a “glass half-full” mentality.

Often times people with negative mindsets simply defend their line of thinking, arguing that they’re just being realistic. While this may be true, the research behind self-talk shows that their realistic (yet negative) mentality limits their abilities and self-efficacy. 

The transition to positive thinking starts with positive self-talk. Instead of bringing yourself down for your mistakes when you encounter adversity, try to remind yourself of your past accomplishments. 

While this simple change of mindset may sound meaningless, there are actually quite a few accompanying health benefits. Recent research has shown that optimism, positive thinking, and positive self-talk all provide an individual with an increased life span, lower rates of depression, lower stress levels, greater resistance to illnesses, better psychological and physical well-being, and better coping skills during times of stress.

So, I wanted to end this blog post with a simply request. The next time you encounter adversity or make a mistake, be aware of your thoughts. Negative thoughts are natural, and you should acknowledge them, but do not dwell on them. 

Acknowledging negative thoughts is actually an aspect of engaging in positive self-talk. You do not wish to remove negative thoughts entirely, they’re important. It’s key that you acknowledge and notice the negative thoughts, so you can follow them up with positive thoughts. 

Please try it, and be sure to let me know how it goes. 

Author Bio;
Self-Confidence is a skill
Nathan H. Rubin is the Head of People Operations and Lead Content Creator at and currently resides in New York City. You can find him blogging at the Blog or on Twitter where he tweets about personal development, productivity, Life-Hacks, and technology.

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