5 Things Parents with Small Children Should Stop Doing
Parents are constantly told by others what to do in order to raise their kids well. With so much focus on the things that they should be doing, it is very easy to overlook the actual things that they should stop doing. What are those thing? Here are 5 things that parents with small children should stop doing.

1. Eating meals in front on the TV
It’s game night and dad’s favorite team is playing. What do you do? A typical American family would end up eating dinner on the living room while watching the game. While bonding over a game played by your favorite sports team is a good way to develop a common interest, mealtime and TV time should never go together.Meals, especially dinner, is the perfect opportunity for the family to talk about things that really matter. For parents with small children, having dinner together is a good way to teach children table manners.

Leading Penn State Human Development and Family Studies experts Leann Birch and Lori Francis actually reiterates this fact by claiming that “Mealtime should be a time for family growth and development.” And even if eating in front of the TV is, to some extent, part of what one would call “American Lifestyle” it is best for the kids not to pick up such a habit. It would be best to either eat dinner before the game or have your meal right after the game instead or dining in front of the television.

2. Threatening your kids when they’re about to do something
As parents, it is very difficult to resist the urge to threaten your kids when they are about to do something bad or naughty. However, threatening your kids is always a bad idea as it will put you in a position where you will always need to to follow through with your threats. If the child insists on doing whatever naughty thing he or she desires to do, that means that you need to follow through and give him whatever punishment you said. There’s also the possibility of you failing to administer the punishment which will give the child the idea that your threats may mean nothing at all.

Even in the heat of anger, try your hardest to resist threatening your child and try to discover first whatever reason is behind your kid’s actions. After that, explain the possible repercussions of his actions. By doing both things, you will be able to validate or give importance to the feelings of your child while teaching him or her self-control.

3. Overindulging the kids
Keep it mind that what your children really need is your guidance and love and everything else is a want. The latest gadgets, the newest model of Hot Wheels toy car and GAP’s latest line of children’s clothes by GAP should just be considered as luxury and not a necessity in keeping your children happy. Early on, the child should learn the things that they should value most- that being immaterial things like relationships, affection, love and education. Even when kids tend to nag about the things that they really want, as a parent, you shouldn’t feel pressured. Some parents will just have enough of their kids nagging them about something that they always end up giving in. Giving in to your kid’s persistent nagging undermines your authority as a parent and shows inherent weakness which the child can easily take advantage of.

Of course, it helps to reward you kids once in a while with a few perks here and there, but not excessively. Kids who are raised in overindulgence are more likely to associate happiness with things or people other than themselves. Consequently, they will grow up into individuals who are incapable of finding happiness on their own.

4. Doing their homework
A recent study by the National Center for Family Literacy highlights the fact that roughly 53%of grade school kids actually let someone else do their homework- 47% or which are by parents and the remaining 6% is by various assignment and essay writing services on the internet. This just means that a staggering number of kids end up not doing their homework and school projects at all.

Parents should remember that independence is one of the foremost virtues of great learners. Homework and school projects may often be burdensome for kids but that doesn’t give you the excuse to do it or let someone else do it. Whether your kid chooses to do their homework, let someone else do it or not to do it at all is a choice that is entirely reserved for the child. What you can do however is influence the choices your kid makes so that you can guide him to the right direction. You can do so by setting the right environment for your kid to accomplish his assignment. You can also give him a hand once in a while but never do it entirely by yourself.

5. Thinking and acting like everything should be under your control
First of all, when you have kids, having everything in control is an almost impossible job. As they always say, kids will always be kids. Stop stressing out about you chaos of a home and try your best to at least keep it down. However, never assume that you can do something drastic about it. When your child makes a mess while eating on your favorite restaurant, you’ll probably feel embarrassed or angry but still, try your best not to be. Just go with it, laugh it out and it will soon be over. And oh, in case this happens, remember to give the waiter a slightly higher tip!

Raising kids, believe it or not, can bring you incomparable joy- something that you will definitely miss once they are all grown up. Keep this list at heart and you will realize that parenting small children is a delightful and rewarding experience amidst all the stress and hardwork involved. While it’s a little too much to say that this list will make you the best parent in the world, it will definitely help you raise your child in a manner that will equally enrich you and your growing kids. Anything you can add to the list?

Author Bio;
Samantha Brier is a simple and fun-loving writer who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of others. She enjoys meeting new people and hearing their inspiring stories. Want to share your own story and hear a few stories from her? Visit her Google+ page.

5 Things Parents with Small Children Should Stop Doing

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